Finding out you are pregnant can be scary, especially if you feel like you aren’t ready to have a baby. 

If you are considering abortion and are unsure how your partner will react, you may be wondering whether you should tell them, how to start the conversation, or what to do if you know they will not support your decision. 

You deserve the opportunity to consider your feelings, understand your pregnancy, and make decisions about your next steps without pressure or fear.

Choices of the Heart is here to provide confidential support, accurate information, and a safe place to talk through your concerns. We also offer no-cost pregnancy testing and limited ultrasounds to confirm your pregnancy details. 

Schedule a no-cost appointment today to get the support you need.

If You Feel Safe 

If you feel safe talking with your partner, having an honest conversation can give you both an opportunity to share how you feel about the pregnancy. You may be surprised by your partner’s reaction, and they may be willing to offer support.

At the same time, you and your partner may not agree about what to do next. Your partner’s feelings are important, but you also deserve space to consider your own feelings and what you want for your pregnancy.

If you decide to have this conversation, choose a time and place where you feel comfortable and have enough privacy to talk openly.

If You Feel Unsafe

Your safety should come first. If you are concerned that your partner may threaten, control, intimidate, or hurt you because of your pregnancy or your decision, you do not have to put yourself in an unsafe situation to have a conversation, nor are you legally obligated to tell your partner. 

Consider talking with someone you trust about what you are experiencing and making a plan for your safety. If you need immediate help, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline anytime at 1-800-799-7233. 

If you still want to tell your partner, consider doing so over the phone or from another safe location where you can maintain some distance if they react strongly.

Why an Ultrasound Is Important

Before making any pregnancy decision, it is important to understand how your pregnancy is developing, as these details can affect your options.

A positive pregnancy test indicates that human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) is present, but it cannot determine the pregnancy’s gestational age, confirm the location of the pregnancy, or identify whether the pregnancy is progressing.

Knowing where the pregnancy is located is particularly important because an ectopic pregnancy can’t develop outside the uterus and requires emergency medical treatment. An ectopic pregnancy cannot be treated with the abortion pill. 

Additionally, the FDA has approved the abortion pill through ten weeks of gestation, making it important to know how far along your pregnancy is when considering medical abortion. Choices of the Heart provides no-cost limited ultrasounds to help you better understand your pregnancy and get this information.

Get Support at Choices of the Heart

You do not have to go through this alone. Healthy and non-judgmental support can make a big difference while you are figuring out your next steps. 

At Choices of the Heart, we believe every woman should have access to pregnancy services at no cost. We are also here to listen to you and give you accurate information about your options and the resources available to help you. 

Contact us today to make your free appointment. 

Choices of the Heart does not provide or refer for abortions.

All abortion information sourced in this blog is based on accurate information at the time of writing.